Thursday, November 4

bike chick

It’s November. This means 95.1 FM is now playing Christmas songs 24/7. I turn the car radio on and, in shock, quickly change the station; only later to return to the Christmas tunes, and continue to listen to them the rest of the day. I don’t know how I feel about this.

But it doesn’t feel at all like Christmas, or maybe it feels like Christmas in Australia, because the sun is still warming us to the mid 60s. There’s just enough bite in the air to be exciting and make me feel guilty for not getting outside. And even though I’ve got piles on my desk, there’s really only one thing I’d like to be doing right now...biking.


I’m not talking spandex; I’m tal
king leather. I was introduced to my first motorcycle several years ago when I met Mike at the 40 and 8 on blues night. The 40 and 8 was my first real introduction to the blues; no cover charge to a smokey room of grass roots blues, black folk and white folk sitting together at long family style tables, all tucked away in a dark forest.

I was meeting someone who never showed up, but I noticed a lanky dude with long hair and a T-shirt that said ‘PLEASE TELL
YOUR BOOBS TO STOP STARING AT MY EYES.’ One person in this room I definitely don’t want to talk to, I thought. By the end of the night, he had my number.

I met up with Mike the next day
. He was waiting on his bike, and told me later, he didn’t know I only had one arm till I stepped out of my car. Within five minutes, we were leaving the parking lot on his bike, and ten minutes later, I was in love...with the motorcycle.

It wasn’t long before I was a serious addict. Sitting astride the Honda Shadow, I absorbed the power beneath me and the scenery like a picture book we’d driven into. I thrilled to every turn, when we and the bike leaned like one toward the earth. The smell of cut grass, sun on the pavement, and scents passing too fast to identify woke me; as if driving a car, I’d been dead the whole time. A former zombie, I saw others driving beside us, yawning behind the wheel.

Stopping at a light, Mike’s long legs touched t
he ground, his hand resting on my leg. I felt safe, which was odd considering, in addition to his poor taste in T-shirts, Mike was deaf in one ear and slowly going blind in both eyes from glaucoma. When I met him, he said he was traveling around the United States, to see as much as he could see before he couldn’t. I think that’s why I returned his call. It was too perfect: the deaf and blind biker hits the road with a one-armed girl.

And I took to the bike like I was born on the seat. The driving motor shot up through my boots and sent shivers down my back; it drowned my mind to a calm; but if I had to say something, I leaned forward and yelled into Mike’s good ear.

He took a job in South Carolina, and after a conference outside of Atlanta, I met him at a Target in Savannah. He introduced me to fellow bikers Bob and Lisa, then took me back to sleep in his small trailer at the junkyard where he worked. We slept side by side on a wooden loft; he never pulled his arm from beneath my neck. Moving suddenly, I knocked his hearing aid out of his ear, popping it in half. “Oh my gosh, I’m sorry!” I said in disbelief. Mike sighed. “I’ll have to buy another one.” Then, the edges of his mouth curling up, he stuck it back together.

In the morning, I drove to a gas stat
ion to find a toilet, then moved to Bob and Lisa’s place where I luxuriated in a real bed. In addition to biking, Bob and Lisa once rode their horses to Walmart and tied them to the cart return pen. I couldn’t imagine a better idea. Bikers seem the next best thing to cowboys, and bikes to horses.

On the back of Mike’s bike, I learned to disdain Harleys, though I’m still not sure why, and roll my ey
es at crotch rockets, which Mike called “asphalt decoration.”

We hatched colorful plans of biking across the country, stopping in tiny towns, working odd jobs, sleeping under the stars, and staying just as long as we liked. But I knew, somehow, the end of the road was coming. Mike had a wounded heart that I was incapable of fixing.

Back in the north, it got colder. Biking was torturous, and finding common ground was getting difficult. Dr
opping me off one night, Mike teased, “I think you like my bike more than me.” I shrugged; there was nothing to say.


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“I have a great idea,” I tell Pete, standing outside the barn. “One day, I’m going to have you make me a bike.

I haven’t heard from Mike in a long time. The last I knew, he was traveling down south in an RV, my picture in his rearview mirror.
I still smoke cigars sometimes because he taught me how on a bitterly cold, windy day outside the special collections library; sometimes I think about his broad shoulders and how he would do anything for a friend.

I visit Pete at the shop where
he’s working. He and Chris, the owner, discuss what type of bike that would be best for a one-armed girl and what kind of modifications I would require, while I try to understand words like ‘jewelry’ and 'heel shift lever eliminators'. Chris tells me his father came back from the war without legs and wanted a bike made that he could drive, but none of the manufacturers took him seriously. Then good ol‘ Honda built one for him with three wheels. Chris and Pete both agree I’d look great on a trike.


But I’m dubious. I miss biking, especially on warm fall days like today, but the more I think about it, I’m not sure about having my own bike. Maybe I’m not that kind of biker chick.

“Well, I could drive my own bike,” I tell Chris with a smile, “Or, I could just get a boyfriend with a bike.”

I've still got my helmet in the closet.

OneArmGirl

Friday, October 29

For yesterday's post, which was posted today, but written for Mañana Mama, please click here. Now, I have to go shovel horse poop.



love.
OneArmGirl



post delay

Yes, I am aware that Thursday came and went without a post. And if it makes you feel better, I was nervous and clammy all night; as I'm sure you were too. Well, at the least the 5% of you that were aware; to the 95% that enjoy my blog, but could care less when things get posted, I hope you slept soundly.

It seems that even when you are the only one working, for yourself, you can still miss deadline. As I was writing this week's post, which I actually began on Monday, it occurred that the topic was made to fit on Mañana Mama, one of my favorite blogs, to which I had recently been invited to guest-post. And so, I put things into action, stopped the presses, made some calls, ran some numbers, pulled an all-nighter.....think Michael Keaton in The Paper.

Ok, not quite that bad, but I did have to write while babysitting a five-year-old, an inept multi-tasker's nightmare, especially when writing about material that just keeps coming.

But it was not for naught. Mañana Mama has accepted, and a new post in just around the corner....as soon as we get the press started and the children fed.


OneArmGirl

Thursday, October 21

guts and gory: one-arm horror

I have, over the last couple of years, mostly while sick and bedridden, developed an especial fondness for Asian film. I’m not talking Crouching Tiger stuff, though I have nothing against extended and frequently air-born ninja-like combat per sé. I’m talking about something a little more subtle, along the lines of Beijing Bicycle. And that’s exactly what I love, the subtlety. There’s a quietness to these films, almost as if they’re trying not to draw attention to themselves, much like the culture from which they come. Most of the plot happens between the lines. And yet, it seems the absence of the overt that engenders surprisingly deep feeling and passion.

But yesterday I watched a film that resembled none of the above except that it was Asian. The Machine Girl caught my eye because it is about a teenager who gets her left arm cut off while trying to avenge her brother’s murder. With the help of friends, she then attaches a machine gun to her stub and goes back to finish the job. Always interested in one-arm film appearances [see also French film, and personal favorite, Amélie], I put it immediately on my ‘to watch’ list, which is mostly in my head, with some random suggestions scribbled on paper, if it is readily available.

Firstly, I would like to say that I knew it was going to be bloody from the trailer. But no one prepared me for horror. I soon learned that this genre makes ‘bloo
dy’ look like the scrape on your knee from when you tripped and fell on the sidewalk. I thought I might be empowered by the tale of a similarly handicapped girl who becomes a skilled ninja, fighting for good and justice. No, I was too busy intermittently laughing and throwing up. It was actually painful to watch.

The only thing I had in common with th
is bloodthirsty-machine-gun-(literally)-armed teenager, is that she started off as a pacifist [so noted in an early scene where she explains to her brother that “violence only hurts people”]. To her credit, Ami is loving and devoted and really good at basketball in the beginning. She doesn't become a death-seeking avenger until her little brother is tossed out of a building by some bullies with powerful connections. She's also a good friend to a much less cool or talented schoolmate who is later stabbed through the mouth by her enemies, a family with seemingly little else in common than a love of violence and vendetta for poorly performing waitstaff.

I was excited to report back to you about this film, before actually watching it. Now that I've seen it, I don’t know if I can even recommend it. I can say this movie makes me wish I was watching a Quentin Tarantino film. I guess I should be happy the one-armed girl was the heroine, and not the villain, as is remarkably the case in other movies. But it’s a very small spot of sunshine amidst an hour and a half of carnage, where someone’s torso is getting cut in half every ten seconds, sending blood spewing in every direction. This bloodfest is interrupted only briefly for similarly vomit-inducing scenes where characters express their ‘to the death’ devotion to one another. And I’m not sure I’d want to be the recipient of devotion from someone likely to stab other people in the skull.

It’s funny, if by funny, you mean a steal bra with drill-sporting cups bringing destruction to anyone the wearer hugs...Ok, I was laughing by this point...but, though I consider my humor to be on the dark side, I a
lso prefer understated, which, this film was not in any regard. By the end, she’s exchanged the gun for a prosthetic chainsaw...also helpful, I suppose, if you’re a one-armed lumberjack. I have to admit, it seems a lot more humorous in retrospect.

I believe I have a broad appreciation for film, and I’ve been known to watch some fl
icks so obscure I’m convinced I’m the only one I could recommend it to, but for those of you who enjoy horror, I just don’t get it. And after yesterday’s drama, I think I’m done trying. I gave it a valiant one-film effort, and that’s the best I can do. I know it’s not supposed to be reality, but even my suspension of disbelief wasn’t enough to hold me. And aren’t Asian martial arts all about fighting without weaponry, conquering your opponent with your mind? Someone please advise... I never saw The Karate Kid.

But, if you’d like to see a one-armed girl get the upper ha
nd [and that’s exactly the kind of groan-worthy cliché this film is chalked full of], and don’t mind watching nails pounded into someone’s head one at a time or the consumption of human finger sushi, The Machine Girl might be for you.

Meanwhile, I’ve lately been standing and practicing other gymnastic moves on a trotting horse. And I did find myself unusually in
spired to lift weights this morning, after a 30-minute bike ride.

When the ninjas come,
I’ll be ready.


OneArmGirl

Thursday, October 14

handicap #2...or happy halloween

I often tell people that my little arm is the least of my disabilities. Though, in an odd move of irony on God’s part, it is usually the most obvious. It is also the original. But I feel we’ve now come to a level of intimacy in this relationship, that I can introduce you to handicap #2.

My spine was fine until I embarked on that wonderful and joy-filled journey called puberty, and then it decided to leave the straight path and get a little crazy. I was twelve when the school nurse told me I had scoliosis, and over the next year or so, the curves in
my spine progressed to 20˚, 43˚, and 18˚ from top to bottom. While all the girls were getting a little more curvy, I became a reverse hourglass, structurally speaking.
“You have to have surgery, and it’s gonna hurt like hell,” a surgeon told me. They wanted to break my spine, fuse it back together with bone taken from my hips, then hold it in place with metal rods and screws. “Will I be able to do somersaults?,” I asked. “No, you’ll be able to bend at the waist, but that’s about it,” they said. I was devastated. I still remember walking outside after that first consultation, noting the jarring contrast between a bright sunny day and the darkness settling into my soul.
Though we scheduled the surgery, the day never came because I began instead a series of alternative treatments and gyrations ranging from experimental to truly bizarre. I spent three years wearing a brace for 18 hours a day that was supposed to squeeze my spine back into place, like dental braces; and spent the remaining six hours in various therapies including electrical muscle stimulation. I saw doctors and chiropractors and therapists all across the country. When I went in for X-ray evaluations, I’d sit in the always slightly chilly examination room waiting for the doctor, looking at my incandescent spine hanging on the wall with embarrassment. Like a kid called into the principal’s office, I dreaded the words that I knew would come: “Wow. Yeah, you have quite the curve here. Why haven’t you had surgery?”
And so it went. Some of the constant pain eased in my early 20s, but the fatigue and general lack of structural support dogged me. Good posture was a distant fantasy. I lusted after the sleek, balanced flow of torsos in nude paintings. My spine didn’t get better, but it didn’t seem to be getting worse. Eventually I stopped wearing the brace and went to college.

A few years
ago, I found the brace at the back of my closet; I’d held onto it just in case. For what? I thought. And so I threw it out. Unexpectedly, something cleared in my soul, and I suddenly felt the weight of my years of imprisonment in full force: long hot days sticking to the brace with my sweaty undershirt, the helpless claustrophobia of knowing I had five hours to go before a brief freedom, then evening lockdown when one of my parents cinched me in and I went to bed with aching muscles, wrapped in a hard plastic cylinder. It all came back, blindsiding my consciousness. I started crying in heaving, unseemly outbursts.

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This week, I went in for a spinal evaluation with a doctor I’d never seen. Having been a scoliosis delinquent bucking the system for nearly 20 years, I was suddenly twelve again, expecting a lecture about the bright prospects of a future without fusion: increasing curvature, compromised lungs, side effects of pregnancy, and heart failure. In my mind, I was slowly becoming Quasimodo with one arm.

I sat on the exam table, wrapped in a balloon of hospital gown. New development: they now give you shorts to wear as well. The bad news: the shorts are also made to fit a 400 lb. man. I felt defeated; now entering my thirties, I prepared myself to agree with the recommendation I knew would come. Little Gen waited in the chair next to me, an inflated purple latex glove pinned to the top of her head like a rooster comb; anything to lighten the mood.

First came fifth-year-resident, Dr. Cute-as-a-Boy-Scout, and appearing about that age. He looked at the X-rays, he looked at my back, he looked at Little Gen’s purple plume, and then he said,

"Where is your arm?"

It took me a few seconds to locate Finneas beneath layers of gown. Then he continued...

“There are two basic reasons for this surgery, to stop progression and to intervene in cases of very limited functionality, neither of which do you qualify for. I wouldn’t recommend surgery for you.”

“Come again?” I said.

“Your curve is not likely to progress and you are extremely functional.” Seeing my disbelief, he looked back at my chart, raising his brows and shaking his head, “You are...amazing.”

The second doctor’s prognosis was the same: no surgery, though I continued to ask the same questions two and three times, certain that I was missing something. “You’ve got a sassy curve,” the surgeon said, “now get out there and enjoy life!”

Gathering up my bundle of skeleton pictures, we left the office. A weight was lifted I'd borne for 18 years. I was almost giddy.



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Bringing my own skeleton out of the closet this week, I’m reminded of all the people around here talking about dressing up for Halloween. The scary thing is, most of these people are adults. When I was a kid, we went trick-or-treating with our neighbors Rose, Ben, and Rachel [who’s lovely blog you can find here: Mañana Mama], though it was more like trick-or-surprising, since our country neighbors, rarely expecting to be found by candy-seeking children, filled our open bags with unique treats like pop-tarts.

One year, a woman was so delighted to see us, she bubbled
on and on about the authenticity of our costumes; looking at me she squealed: “And this one’s even missing an arm!” I decided to just roll with it.
But I’m not inclined to dress up this year. Oddity is daily life for me, and now that I have permission, I’m just starting to enjoy being myself.

OneArmGirl

Sunday, October 10

the journey is overrated

So, as I was saying, this is the end of a story. It begins with Little Gen and I deciding to continue a Fall tradition of sorts, begun by our father, of going to the mountains for apple cider. The Manzanos, in particular, mountains conveniently named ‘apples’ in Spanish. We like to keep things simple here in New Mexico.

And so, semi-early on a Monday morning, we set out, two sun-dried tomato tortilla wraps and plenty of water in tow. In keeping with family tradition, we did not call ahead to ensure the availability of apple cider so as not to ‘ruin’ the adventure. Little Gen offered this encouraging admonition: "Sometimes we find it, sometimes we don't."

About an hour later, we found ourselves on a stretch of road heading south, passing signs for the mountain towns of Chilili, Torreon, and Mountainair. But we knew we’d found the right trail when these signs began to appear every hundred feet or so, directing us right to the very place where the manzanos are turned into cider.

The good news: we found the the place. The bad news: it was open Thursday through Sunday only. Our hopes only mildly suppressed, we took a picture with the sign, and turned around. Our treasure hunt was not fruitless, however. Right after we turned back, we spotted two deer, a doe and buck, in the brush on the side of the road. Also, we passed this intriguing sign for a book sale with no books in sight for miles.

Still imagining the taste of sweet cider from the source, we stopped at a local service station advertising cider. But inside, no cider was to be found. Determined, we stopped again at a small general store with signs for local cider. Inside, we found only cherry or raspberry flavored cider. Is it too much to ask for a normal quart of cider! Apparently it is. Getting a little desperate by this point, we paid for some cherry and left. Note: I’m pretty sure the cherry was well on it’s way to hard cider.

And, so, the story ends here, a few miles from our apartment, at our beloved Sunflower Market, where we finally purchased a gallon of apple cider in the refrigerated foods section. And where was said cider from? Lansdale, Pennsylvania. Unbelievable. This story was not as exciting as you’d anticipated? Well, join the club.

In other news, today was the last day of Balloon Fi
esta, or the Balloon Fiasco, as I heard some photographers from the local paper call it. I bribed Little Gen with Starbucks to get up at 6am to go find a nice viewing spot for the mass ascension of hot air balloons. It was everything Balloon Fiesta should be....miserably cold, wrinkled winter coats just pulled from the closet, and glorious fire-lifted orbs ascending into the desert sky. The only thing missing from our location were hoards of people. But I think I prefer yesterday when one lone balloon silently sailed down the street, a half block from my apartment. Turns out, sometimes the adventure comes to you.

OneArmGirl

Thursday, October 7

to tide you over...


This is the end of a story. For the beginning of the story, please tune in sometime in the near future, when I have a minute to actually spend some quality time with my computer. We had a hay situation arise this week at the farm, so I've spent the morning pulling bales of fresh hay off a truck (quite enjoyable) and getting hit on by one of the delivery guys (slightly less enjoyable). Now I am off to the City....of the Holy Faith of St. Francis of Assisi (and that's just the part I remember)...or, as we locals say, Santa Fe.

So, who knows what may transpire between now and when I next post; perhaps two or three more stories...

OneArmGirl

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